What is a Soul Tie?

The Bible does not speak of “soul ties.” It does however refer to souls being knit together. Paul’s prayer for the Colossians was, “I want them to be encouraged and knit together by strong ties of love.” Soul ties may become fleshly lusts due to inappropriate relationships. As Peter writes in 1 Peter 2:11, “Beloved, I urge you as foreigners and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts, which wage war against the soul.” Paul writes in 1 Cor. 6:16, “do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” A biblical word is the word, “joined,” becoming one flesh.

In its simplest form, it ties two souls together. At the heart of all physical, psychological relationship is spiritual connection. God’s intention was for couples to be united in one-flesh. This has been referred to in our day as a “soul tie.” The married couple is drawn together like magnets. So, there is a reason that we don’t find the word in scripture because it is not a biblical or Christian concept. On the other hand, the terminology is popular today because it is a secular concept of relationship between two people. Often soul ties are developed due to sexual encounters outside of marriage. The soul ties are powerful. Fornicators can be drawn to an abusive relationship. Instead of running away, they may be drawn to an abusive partner because of the soul tie. In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through. Soul ties can allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person may be unaware of what is going on, or knows what is going on but allows it to continue.

Our thought life may contribute to development of soul ties. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Prov. 23:7), our thinking leads to our “acting out” on what we are thinking. Our thought life is crucial, and this is particularly true in our sexual behavior. Jesus said: “I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matt. 5:28) This can go both ways of course – for men and for women. It is not wrong to look at a person of the opposite sex, is it? God gave us eyes to see! But the question is, what does our mind do with the image we see? The satanic tempter is quick to introduce a tempting thought of how we might fulfill our God given sexual desires in a God forbidden way.

Often soul ties begin on a social level but may develop into an emotional and then physical relationship, which will ultimately reveal the spiritual source of the soul tie. All soul ties reveal spiritual connection, they are either godly or ungodly. God created us with soulical needs. As a result, we form social bonds or ties with people, and we become friends. This a normal and healthy part of social lives. Friendships often develop into deeper, more meaningful relationships which may lead to emotional attachments or soul ties. You begin to feel comfortable enough to share your deepest feelings and experiences, your secrets with someone and an emotional bond or soul tie is created. You now have a connection, a bond, a link, or a soul tie to someone.

A tell-tail sign that an emotional connection has been formed between two people, are when both parties invite the other inside. You share personal stories. It may begin with a funny story but leads to sharing about bad days where everything went wrong. You are both willing to give each other glimpses into your soul. Thus, it is called a “soul tie.” Even in silence, the couple feels at ease with each other. You can share anything without fear of rejection.

It is easy to see how these emotional soul ties can lead to a strong physical attraction. The progression of soul ties may lead to a physical connection. Physical ties are a bond between two people sexually which may lead to sexual intercourse. When you decide to have sexual intercourse with someone, you expose every part of yourself. It is easy to see how this happens, because the couple has opened themselves up to each other on a psychological level of intimacy. People who believe that sex is just a physical act with no strings attached have been deceived. After sex people find themselves longing for the other person because their souls have been interwoven. Godly bonds are formed when a couple are married. Ephesians 5:31, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.” The union between a husband and wife was intended by God to be an unbreakable bond. “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:9). However, when a person has ungodly sexual relations with another person, an ungodly soul tie is then formed. “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to ‘bond’ or be joined to anybody, because their soul is fragmented due to multiple partners.

Soul ties have a spiritual source. Our anthropology consists of spirit, soul, and body. These unique levels of life expression are always connected, and we derive what we do from a spiritual source. We are not independent selves. Therefore, all soul ties have spiritual source. It is always an either/or, you derive character from God or Satan. And interestingly, your soul ties will either draw you closer to God or lead to the bondage of Satan.

The obvious question must be asked, can a sinful soul tie be broken and if so, how? The answer is yes! God’s grace is sufficient for any sin. First, one must agree with God and call it what it is, sin! 1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

How do we break a soul tie? or better stated, how does God break a sinful soul tie. When sin is committed, which has caused the soul tie, it must be repented of! Fornication is perhaps one of the most common ways to create soul ties. Confession brings sin into the light, and it must be forsaken. If gifts were given to you by the other person in connection with the sinful unholy relationship, such as rings, flowers, cards, bras, etc. get rid of them! It is necessary to destroy all such things. Destroy anything that symbolizes the ungodly practices of the sinful relationship. This act of faith will help to break the unholy soul tie as an act of obedience to God. If you are still friends, like say a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, you must repent and forsake the unholy practices you used to do in your relationship.

Any rash vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul tie should be renounced and repented of, renouncing statements that you made to each other should also be broken. Like – “I will love you forever,” or “I could never love another man or woman!” need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be renounced verbally. As Proverbs 21:23 says, “He who guards his mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles.” The tongue can bring the soul great troubles and bondage. Next, forgive that person if you have anything against them.

Renounce (break) the soul tie in prayer to God. Do this verbally.

Lord, I acknowledge I have been in a sinful relationship with _ and I no longer want control over them, nor do I want them to have control over me. I confess my ungodly soul tie as sin and ask that you forgive me and cleanse me of all unrighteousness. “I now break and sever all ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _Name the person_ as a result of _Sin_ (fornication, etc.) in Jesus’ name.”

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